I think that guys playing video games gets a bad wrap. Though it can be bad-it doesn’t have to be! Here are my thoughts on the subject!
5 Reasons I Love My Husband Playing Video Games
1.) He gets to hang out with his long distance friends– My husband and I are currently living in Portales, NM, and almost all of our closest friends are living in Western PA. That means that we get to find creative ways to stay connected despite the hundreds of miles in between us. For me, that’s facetiming coffee dates with my friends- and for Nathaniel, it’s chatting & killing zombies via PS4 & a headset with his friends. I love that! Just like I ask and make sure a particular evening is free/good for us if I facetime Amy, so he will also check and make sure it’s good for him to spend some time with Tim on a particular night to play video games. It’s not about permission, it’s just respecting each other’s time. And on those nights, I love that while I’m making dinner, I can hear my husband laughing with one of his groomsmen, asking about his life and marriage, all while killing zombies.
2.) I find joy in his joy!– Just like I do, my husband stays busy and has lots of hobbies. Japanese woodworking, reading Tolkein, riding motorcycle, etc. I’m happy that he enjoys things, and I think it’s important that we both have our primary joy in Christ, our secondary joy in each other, and plenty of other joys in life separately! We are one, and yet still individual people, and we need to live in that juxtaposition even in our hobbies!
3.) I value how differently we’re wired– It’s not my jam–but I love that he relaxes and enjoys playing different characters and saving the entire world/civilization! I love that he loves strategy, and bravery, and heroism, and sci-fi– and all that is manifested in his hobby of gaming.
4.) He invites me into his hobby- I never feel like gaming is “his time” or “his thing”. I get to snuggle up next to him, and do things I enjoy with him by my side. He also is convinced that I will enjoy playing Mass Effect, so we have created a character and I’m going to give it a go sometime soon 🙂
5.) He invests appropriate time into it- He doesn’t play often-so it’s easy for me to not be bothered by it. But I can totally understand a person’s frustration if their s/o a.) plays a game that Christ would hate to watch, OR b.) if-by playing it- they’re ignoring their God given responsibilities (of loving their wife/family, providing for their home, being spiritual disciplined, investing in the local church, etc.). BUT Nathaniel does neither of those things. For example, this morning, Nathaniel made us breakfast, we read a chapter in a book on marriage together, did some yard work, took our dog on a walk, then ran some separate errands. So when he played a game while I baked and spent some time on my computer- there was ZERO room for frustration about time.
What are you thoughts on video games?